Sunday, November 6, 2011
People, I suppose
Like in real life, finding helpful people in magic (or League of Legends) is one of the hardest things to do. Most people are assholes because "lol I know a lot" or because they just want the chance to show off what they know/can do. There's no such thing as "honest mistakes" to some people. I don't know why that it is, but it's pretty unfortunate.
I'm not saying you have to be uber-kind and go out of your way just to not make people feel bad, though certainly it's really not that hard. Constructive criticism is sometimes the only way to go. But, you just have to be tactful, something many people don't really understand. Please try and remember that being super sarcastic and a complete dick is not the same as being constructive or helpful. All it does is make you look bad (e.g. why do you think bullies continue to bully in school? Could it be possibly because they feel much better in the eyes of their peers, or possibly themselves?)
I think magic is a terrible culprit of this. It's populated by assholes, calling other people assholes. Everyone thinks they know more than the other, and berate you if you mess up. You just need to look at the Magic Cafe to see what I mean. It has a lot of potential, but it's so off from it. They should probably first fix the moderator issues and the search engine.
Imagine if I just had to go into the fray of patients with asshole attendings to learn. I'd be a terrible doctor! Everyone has to start somewhere.
I've posted a similar rant after watching several members on the Green Monster gang up on a poor kid who just wanted to find out about the Criss Angel set. Yes, it's a bad set. Yes, Criss Angel is not really a great magician. But all he wanted to do was find out. He was probably just starting in magic, found this website, and thought, "Hey, maybe they can tell me if this is good place to get started." The kid made one last post about how he just wanted to find out about it. All he got were....really poorly thought out posts. Unhelpful, sarcastic marks and even getting berated. But why? Other than to toughen him up, how the hell is any of that helpful? Just remember, you don't need to be (you really shouldn't be, actually) an asshole to teach someone something, or help someone out, to give advice, or to "toughen them up".
Whatever the hell that actually means.
I'm not saying you have to be uber-kind and go out of your way just to not make people feel bad, though certainly it's really not that hard. Constructive criticism is sometimes the only way to go. But, you just have to be tactful, something many people don't really understand. Please try and remember that being super sarcastic and a complete dick is not the same as being constructive or helpful. All it does is make you look bad (e.g. why do you think bullies continue to bully in school? Could it be possibly because they feel much better in the eyes of their peers, or possibly themselves?)
I think magic is a terrible culprit of this. It's populated by assholes, calling other people assholes. Everyone thinks they know more than the other, and berate you if you mess up. You just need to look at the Magic Cafe to see what I mean. It has a lot of potential, but it's so off from it. They should probably first fix the moderator issues and the search engine.
Imagine if I just had to go into the fray of patients with asshole attendings to learn. I'd be a terrible doctor! Everyone has to start somewhere.
I've posted a similar rant after watching several members on the Green Monster gang up on a poor kid who just wanted to find out about the Criss Angel set. Yes, it's a bad set. Yes, Criss Angel is not really a great magician. But all he wanted to do was find out. He was probably just starting in magic, found this website, and thought, "Hey, maybe they can tell me if this is good place to get started." The kid made one last post about how he just wanted to find out about it. All he got were....really poorly thought out posts. Unhelpful, sarcastic marks and even getting berated. But why? Other than to toughen him up, how the hell is any of that helpful? Just remember, you don't need to be (you really shouldn't be, actually) an asshole to teach someone something, or help someone out, to give advice, or to "toughen them up".
Whatever the hell that actually means.
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